“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to be sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket–safe, dark, motionless, airless–it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”
— C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
That is my code. It reminds me that in my marriage, friendships and family relationships that if I want to true, healthy relationship, I have to be honest and open about what’s going on with me. I have to go out on that limb and reveal myself: hopes, dreams and brokenness.
Yes, I will get hurt. I’m in relationship with imperfect people while being an imperfect person. It’s impossible to avoid heartbreak if we want to love and be loved. So I choose to love and be vulnerable with the people in my life, and I’m so thankful I found such a lovely crew who aren’t perfect but are safe and love me back.