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1. I got my first big girl job.

2. I moved with my husband to Kansas City and finally feel like I’ve found a place I can call home.

3. I’ve cried a lot: some times good, healthy tears, some times just angry ones.

4. I got front row seats to see my best friend get married on top of a mountain.

5. I found a church and can finally feel myself recovering from post-college religion angstiness.

6. I learned the secret to awesome sandwich-making.

7. I’ve changed the way I look at food toward a healthier diet. Yay meat, veggies and whole grains!

8. I started doing yoga and tried p90x. I recommend both.

9. Saw Mumford & Sons in concert with 10,000 of my closest friends, watched Jason Sudeikis perform with Second City and saw Demetri Martin, one of my top 3 stand up comics, live. Bought tickets to see No. 1, Jim Gaffigan, in March.

10. Said good-bye to Harry Potter with lots of good tears at a midnight show and smuggled-in butterbeer cupcakes.

11. Wrote two children’s books, one for each niece starring herself, and then self-published them with the help of Ash and her beautiful illustrating and designing skills. More to come on that in the new year.

12. Came to realize that I’m not as grown-up as I thought I was, don’t have it all figured out and still have a long way to grow in life. (duh, Char)

 

 

 

 

 

 

Wow, it’s been quiet around here. But I promise we have good reasons for that. On top of our normal work and Christmas craziness, Ash and I have been working diligently together on a Christmas project that I’m sure we’ll share with you as soon as Christmas is over and the gifts have all been opened. Until then, shhhh…you never know which special someone’s parents or grandparents are reading this thing.

Anywho, it’s not super comprehensive, but here’s my Christmas gift guide in case you’re still scrambling. These are my go-to gifts when it comes to Christmas or birthdays, but I think all four of these are especially suited to Christmas since they all have to do with baking, hot beverages or wintery activities like reading. So without further ado, follow the link for gift ideas!

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Filed in Writing

When I write, the thing that inspires me most is music. Listening to music that reminds me of the story I’m trying to write immerses me in that story and its emotions. In the NaNoWriMo situation, I need that kind of immersion constantly to be able to write 1500 words a day in a story.

The last time I did NaNoWriMo, in 2009, I finished a novel called Conversations Between Maggie and Bob, a story about a little girl who grows up being able to talk to God. The playlist I compiled to get me through all 50,000 words consisted of the following songs, a mix between songs that relate directly to the story or just generally put me in a thoughtful, writing mood.

“Eet” by Regina Spektor

“Laughing With” by Regina Spektor

“You Found Me” by The Fray

“Never Say Never” by The Fray

“Like Socrates Loved the Truth” by Bradley Hathaway

“Delicate” by Damien Rice

“I’m Not Alright” by Sanctus Real

“The Blues” by Switchfoot

“Happiness” by The Fray

This year, the playlist is still forming. I tried to go with a sibling rivalry story instead of a love story, but Glamour had a little one page article wondering why there aren’t more movies about average girls landing hot men but a plethora of comedies of average Joe’s winning over hot women. So I took that as a challenge and am applying it to my NaNoWriMo novel. And on top of that, my two main characters do the hate each other, then fall in love dance. Here’s what I have so far as far as a playlist goes for this story:

 ”Gonna Get a Long Without You Now” by She & Him

“You Don’t Know Me” by Ben Folds

“Gravity” by Sara Bareilles

“New Slang” by The Shins

“Breathe” by Anna Nalick

“Corner of Your Heart” by Ingrid Michaelson

Pretty much anything by Kat Nash and Lily Allen

What songs do you listen to when you need some inspiration?

Filed in Writing

This will be my third year participating in National Novel Writing Month (NaNoWriMo). In case you aren’t familiar, November is NaNoWriMo, and every year, people challenge themselves to write an entire novel in one month. That’s 50,000 words in 30 days. The first time I tried my hand at NaNoWriMo was in 2008, and I failed miserably. I don’t even remember what that stupid book was about, but I didn’t last very long at all. In 2009, I had a good idea, and I was motivated! I was in graduate school, working part time and a TA at the same time, and somehow, I finished that book in record time. I think I had two hours to spare or something. Here’s an excerpt.

If you’ve never done NaNoWriMo before, you should! It’s so exhilarating and fun. There’s nothing like watching a word count climb higher and higher and then stagnate, which will eventually lead to you begging your computer to grant you some inspiration to generate a few hundred more words. And the accomplishment of finishing feels awesome! You have written a novel. Not only did you write a novel, but you wrote it in one month!

Going into this year’s NaNoWriMo, having finished once, I’m taking with me some lessons I learned from 2009 that I think helped me succeed:

  • Tell everyone that you’re doing this: I think that made a huge difference between 2008 and 2009 for me. In 2008, I had just moved and hadn’t started graduate school, so my social network was not huge. I’m not sure I told anyone other than my husband that I was attempting NaNoWriMo, so there was no accountability, no one rooting me on. In 2009, my fellow grad students knew, my church friends knew, my family knew. My Facebook friends and Twitter followers had to put up with my insane word count updates every day, sometimes multiple times a day. But I had no complaints. Actually, people seemed to love being able to keep up with my progress online. It was a blast being able to include that many people in my quest.
  • Outline you’re store before you start: Knowing the basic plot points you’re trying to get to will help you get through those lulls where you don’t know what to write. Knowing the timeline, the goal, helps you figure out what comes next.
  • Your novel is going to suck: Don’t worry about quality, writing style, witty dialogue or plot holes. The point of NaNoWriMo is just to get the story out. Just write words. 50,000 of them in 30 days. You don’t have time to make sure every metaphor is perfect and every action fits with the character’s motivation. That’s what December is for. November is just about cranking out the words. Every time I feel myself start to delete and rewrite too many times, I make myself move on. Whether that means jumping settings and time to check on other characters, introducing new characters or killing one of them off (if you’ve never read my stuff, I have this slight obsession with killing off all my best characters), just do something to shake up the rut you’re in and move the plot forward.
  • Immerse yourself in whatever inspires you: For me that’s music. During November, my earbuds become a part of my anatomy. When I write a story, I usually am seeing it playing out in my head like a movie, so music acts almost like a soundtrack, helping me to know what comes next.
  • Have fun, duh: NaNoWriMo is just for fun. There are no real prizes other than tshirts, printable certificates and coupons. It’s all about celebrating writing and literacy. It’s a chance to try something completely new and crazy, just to see if you can. And if you don’t make it, relax. It’s not like there was anything at stake. It’s all just for fun and writing exercise. And you don’t have to be a writer to participate. Anyone can, and it can be fun for people who have never tried a hand at creative writing and people actually striving to get published. Again, it’s all for fun and trying something new and crazy. So just remember…relax. Make it a game.

Hope you join me! Follow me at NaNoWriMo as mae.lewis. If you’ve done NaNoWriMo before, what tips do you have for finishing?

Filed in In Pictures

I recently read this post at For Me, For You on wordless posts, blog posts that feature just pictures, and I’m super intrigued. It’s been hard to keep up with posting regularly with my mind consumed with non-blog worthy things like work projects, grocery lists, apartment cleaning. I haven’t had a ton of wonderful, insightful things on my mind to share. I’ve found some peace with my faith crisis. Major declarations and attitude changes have subsided. All that’s left right now is too enjoy the quiet before the storm that is the holidays.

During this lull, I think I’ll start doing some pictures only posts. I love having pictures, looking at pictures, but I never take any pictures. First, because I’m not much of a photographer. I don’t really have an eye for it in everyday life. Plus I have the hardest time pausing my life-living to stop and take a picture. Usually the moment has passed before Instagram or the camera app on my phone can load. Despite these things, I’m always vowing to take more pictures, and I never really do. Maybe if I had a reason to, a deadline (because journalists work best on deadline) or commitment, I would take more pictures. So throughout the lull be looking for picture-only posts. Hope you enjoy them! There will probably be a lot of pictures of puppies.

But don’t worry! There will be word-filled blog posts coming soon! There are lots of exciting things on the horizon that I can’t wait to share with you. Here’s a list of things I’m thinking about:

First ever fall reading list
NaNoWriMo 2011
Thanksgiving food
Christmas shopping on budget
A super secret project Ash and I are working on together!!!!!

Filed in Foodie

It’s been really busy at this KC apartment the past few weeks. Family has been in and out visiting, business trips have been traveled and our pantry and fridge have been wiped as our eating habits have completely fallen by the wayside in all the chaos. Yesterday, an attempt to get back on the eating in/saving money horse resulted in a huge grocery trip. However, I opened my fridge this afternoon to make a sandwich for Sunday lunch and realized I forgot all veggie basics for sandwich-making. Usually, my lunches consists of leftovers because they are cheaper than all the sandwich fixings, but my meal planning skills were rusty, so I just grabbed some Trader Joe’s oven-roasted turkey for emergency lunches in case the leftover well runs dry. But the turkey was all I grabbed. No tomatoes, cucumbers, red onion, fancy cheese, nothing but mayo, mustard, apples and sweet pickles (bleh! We bought them on accident. Read those labels carefully!).

I was resigning myself to a sandwich of turkey, mayo, mustard and sweet pickles on toast when I remembered the massive bag of honeycrisp apples. If I love me some apple/cheddar sandwiches, who’s to say I can’t put slices of apples to jazz up a turkey sandwich? So I did. And it was delicious! Whole wheat toast, mayo, mustard, sliced honey crisp apples and oven roasted turkey. I highly suggest using a honeycrisp apple or another sweet variety as it complements the tanginess of the mayo and mustard.

...and leftover apple slices with peanut butter for a side, winning!

A year ago I would have never been adventurous enough to put apples on a sandwich in place of veggies, but here we are. What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever put on a sandwich.

*Here’s why I’m blogging about something as simple as a sandwich.

Filed in Faith

For everything there is a season,

a time for everything under heaven.

Remember that post I wrote a few weeks back that was a huge purge of my heart toward God and church for the past three years? Well, I had sort of a break through across the last two or three weeks. Can a break through take that long? Well the break through happened in church Sunday night but the events leading up to it happened weeks before.

A time to tear down and a time to build up.

I was sitting in church, contemplating whether or not John and I should join the church. I was alone. I felt sick of being there alone. I hate hate hate going to church by myself when I know very few people. It makes me feel too vulnerable. All my bad feelings toward the church grow exponentially and suffocate me when I go to church alone. I knew we needed to join the church, but this anxiety was paralyzing. I prayed for some peace, and God granted me some, enough to where I could sing and take communion, but I was still anxious about talking to anyone.

A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones.

Then for some reason, I remember a conversation I had with a new friend. She asked me what happened. As I explained how I felt about church and why I did, her reaction made me see how silly I was being. Her reaction wasn’t scolding or judgmental. There was no reaction really. No affirmation. No condemnation. Just listening. And I started listening to myself and realizing that all these feelings were too trivial to hold onto for so long. These feelings aren’t worthy of the paralyzing power I let them have over me. As evidence in your comments on that previous post, I’m not alone. There is nothing special here. This is normal, and my pity party has been long enough. It’s unfair of me to let this past prevent me from investing in a new church and new people who have done nothing to deserve my suspicion.

A time to embrace and a time to turn away.

I still think my faith’s winter season was important and good for me. It’s helped my faith get to a stronger place, a place I really enjoy being. Like Ecclesiastes says, there is a season for everything under heaven. But to wallow in this, to try to make it last longer than it should would be unhealthy. Even though its technically fall, for my faith it is spring. I am shaking off winter and welcoming the sun.

A time to tear and a time to mend.

*The italicized bits are the pieces of Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 which were the most important to me right now. I’ve used the NLV translation.


Filed in Foodie

The last four years in my kitchen have been one ridiculous experiment. My senior year of college I moved out of the dorm and into a house with two other girls and a beautiful kitchen. My taste buds only tolerated lean cuisines for so long, but I was terrified of the kitchen. The most I ever helped in the kitchen growing up was making instant gravy (not the instant mashed potatoes, that was always hit or miss for me) or Christmas treats. I kicked ass at box brownies, grilled cheese and heating up a can of soup though. But I soon realized that if I ever wanted a home-cooked meal consistently for the rest of my life, I needed to learn to make it myself. So I bought a cookbook (How to Boil Water, no joke), and I started teaching myself.

Since I was starting from scratch with this whole learning to cook thing, I decided I wanted to start on the right foot by establishing a habit of healthy eating. I ate a lot of chicken. I learned how to handle cooking fish. Recently, through experience I graduated from entree only meals to coordinating side dishes, quite beautifully actually if I do say so myself. In the last 365 days I have figured out how to cook fresh vegetables in a way that doesn’t make me want to gag, and they are still good for you. Reading magazines and blogs on healthy eating has helped me put together a diet that consists mostly of lean meats, fish, a whole lot of veggies and some whole grain.That took four years to figure out.

John is slowly but surely getting on board with me. He has this habit of watching documentaries on Netflix to put himself to sleep, and his favorite documentary subject lately has been food (his favorites are Food, Inc.; Food Matters; and Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead). This has led to some crazy declarations the next day:

“No more potato chips!” says the guy who’s favorite way to relax after work isn’t drinking a beer but eating an entire can of Pringles.

“No more red meat!” says the meat and potatoes boy from Arkansas. “Okay, well maybe we’ll just cut out ground beef.”

“No more milk for me!” says the man who goes through 2-3 gallons a week on his own.

Through all these revelations and all this talk, we’ve decided to pursue a locavore diet, or as close as we can come while still living on a budget. This comes from an idea of avoiding corporate food and eating as fresh food as possible. So eating local is not a strict rule, but rather a goal. I’m not one for obsessing over these things. I would be one of those vegetarians who still eats fish, and will probably be a locavore in the Midwest eating fish. But we do want to eat local when we can.  What will this look like? Buying most of our produce, meat and bread from farmers markets, local butchers (if I can find one) and bakers. And this extends to restaurants too, supporting restaurants that get their ingredients from local sources.

Of course being in a new city and trying to navigate a new food world/culture at the same time is a lot, so if anyone out there in Kansas City has any resources for KC locavores, please share! I would love to chat.

Filed in Personal

I’ve been feeling a bit homesick for Japan lately, which is weird because it isn’t home. I don’t really have a home being a military kid. At least that’s what I tell people. When they ask me where I’m from, I reply with, “Nowhere.” It’s quirky, clever and brings upon more questions. See, I was born in Beaufort, SC, but left before I could remember it and bounced around the South until I was 5, and we returned to Beaufort. That’s where I spent my childhood, and where I guess is technically my hometown. Unfortunately, my memories from South Carolina are warm, fuzzy and nostalgic, making it seem less real than the more recent Japan, California and Missouri.

Japan is where I spent middle school and half of high school. Japan is where my memories become more solid. I can remember the good and the bad, the tribulation that was 7th grade and the hope of first love.

I’m not sure why I’m pining for Japan or if I’m pining for the place at all. Maybe I’m just missing being a Marine’s dependent. It’s always held a certain distinction for me and comes with a culture that I don’t feel connected to anymore. When I’m reminded of it I miss it terribly. But in the last few weeks things have happened that make me think of Japan and my time there.

  • I wrote about a new cookie product that reminded me of these filled cookies we used to watch being made Krispy Kreme style. I got a sudden craving for the chocolate filled ones that was so strong that I was about to hop on a plane just to get me some.
  • The 10th anniversary of 9/11 got me thinking about where I was, which was in Japan.
  • My husband recently decided he wants our Japan vacation to happen way sooner than originally planned in the far away future. I’m not complaining except now I have to decide: Europe first or Japan?
  • A friend from my time there posted pictures on Facebook from that time. Flipping through them definitely takes you back. Yay awkward middle school photos on Facebook.

I’m not depressed, just living in wistful nostalgia, but I don’t know how to shake it. I wish I could go there right now and take John on a whirlwind tour of Charlotte’s childhood memories. I want to eat some real yakisoba and ramen, go to the Chicken Shack, pet the deer at Miyajima, watch a Hiroshima Carps baseball game, ring the peace bell at Hiroshima Peace Park, visit the Tokyo fish market and walk across the Kintai bridge. But I guess dreaming and saving money will just have to do for now.

Is there a place that you long for? How do you cope when you can’t go back?